Home is the center of the couple’s life together.  Having a symbol of the Home makes perfect sense in creating your wedding ceremony.  Jewish or not, the Wedding Canapé is an icon that should be considered when crafting your ceremony.  I don’t want couples to have a Chuppah because it is expected of by the Jewish partner or their parents expectations. I always encourage couples to think about what “Home” means to them and how they can personalize their Chuppah.  This is what makes the Chuppah so powerful.

I am not speaking about how the florist decorates it, it is about why you chose the flowers you are using.  Using a Father’s or Grandfather’s tallit, (prayer shawl) coving the Chuppah speaks of the generations of devotion to God covers your home.  If the groom selects to make the Chuppah poles, the kind of wood used can have symbolism as to the personality of your relationship to each other.   If the Chuppah is large, it speaks of a large family, if small, the word, cozy comes to mind.  Manzanita wood is the strongest wood on the planet.  That speaks to the strength of your relationship.  Willow, speaks of being able to bend with the winds of time and trials that come your way, yet as with the willow, it bends without breaking.

Photos of loved one’s like family who has passed, even pet photos, represent their valued place in your home.  Most of all whatever you do is make the Chuppah yours.

Barry Tuchman